relationship killer and romantic moments
Christa Wilf Gasser and actively support the Marriage Week. To advise other couples to work but also aware of his own marriage. We asked the secret of a happy and stable marriage.
Christa Gasser, Gasser Wilf, What is the secret to a good marriage?
Wilf Gasser: We know much better what a marriage apart, brings as what makes a good marriage. Thus, carping criticism and contemptuous conduct secure relationship killer. In a good marriage is, however, retains the respect for each other and one has learned to leave another position. It is not also depend on the negatives, but can come and reflect on what has been positive in the other.
how much "maintenance" needs a marriage?
Christa Gasser: The "maintenance required" is very individual, but no one comes around it to invest in the marriage. And the sooner we start, the easier it is for us to stay well under way. But even if our "marriage house" should ever break down a whole wall of the house, the marriage is not easy in the end, but only once "broken" and can be restored. Very problematic in our view, the romantic Hollywood ideas, which fell entirely to build up feelings. Are these then evaporates and leads to severe conflicts, to set the relationship as a whole is in question and looks for a new one.
begins Where the marriage is usually the first to kriseln?
Wilf G.: This can not make sweeping statements. But surely it is problematic if it begins to annoy the otherness of the partner's, perhaps because the changes do not attempt to target or otherwise you must learn to live with unfulfilled expectations. Who here is not radical reconciliation is practiced, slow and bitter loses the heart connection.
What is the role of sex in marriage?
Chris G.: The importance of sex is overrated in general. Because even when in bed only a little or nothing is running, you can still have a good relationship. But sexuality is of course a brilliant opportunity to close in the relationship or proximity to produce the least. As we discover, based on sexuality as young people ourselves and know to stay, unfortunately, many trapped in this self-centered track. This is often exacerbated by pornography or romantic daydreams. Then, when the passionate feelings are gone, the sexual Encounter difficult. Couples must now learn from scratch to live sexuality focused on other's. Instead, give some to the relationship, or they come to terms with an unsatisfactory sexual relationship.
If children are a danger or a kit for a happy married life?
Wilf G.: Children are only a hazard if they become the partner replacement. But otherwise they enter a relationship and meaning and mission. This experience especially childless couples who have to their "life meaning" look much more aware. Who needs children as putty in the relationship, very dangerous.
What advice give to your couples who start a marriage in the long run do?
Chris G.: Couples must understand that relationship means more work. Most are found even under the motto "opposites attract". And the larger the differences are, the more must be invested in the "Bridge". It does so again and again a willingness to adapt to the partner or the partner to accept diversity, but also to themselves for change and compromise to be ready.
And the most important prerequisite for a lasting, happy marriage is a radical reconciliation.
What makes your concrete in the Marriage Week?
Wilf G.: there are hundreds throughout Switzerland of offers. We personally think again, a seminar on "Growing intimacy in marriage - way to a fulfilling sexuality." And in this context, we invite on Saturday evening and a public candlelight dinner with romantic background music, and short inputs on successful relationship. During the week we are invited twice a Marriage Week dinner, where we will also stop short inputs about growing intimacy.
private, we would like to invite some friends couples to jointly celebrate our marriages.
Questions by Fritz Imhoff
0 comments:
Post a Comment